A Bit of Christian Thought
I don’t normally talk about this stuff.
As you long-time readers know, I identify as a Christian, though a poor one at best. Despite that, though, I rarely talk about theology much. I’m a little fuzzy on most of that to begin with, so trying to espouse a view in that area is, well, somewhat tricky. Still, when someone pointed me to this article on Christian Teachings, I have to admit that I found it interesting. Lies and lying have often fascinated me, more so lately. I’ve often been amazed at individual’s ability to tell bold-face lies and expect them to be believed. Even more amazing to me are the people who believe them. I think the secret lies in the lier believing their own lie. Certainly, the above linked article would support that concept.
I know I haven’t always told the truth, but I sure do my best these days. I try not to be too hard on myself for my own past. God knows, there are plenty of people who are willing to beat me up for my past misdeeds without me helping them. But, I try to remember that spiritual progress, not perfection, is the path I try to take. It’s the seeking for God and a better way to live my life that matters, not the ways I fall short of that ideal. Though, if I keep falling short the same ways over and over in consistent patterns, that is something I need to look at and fix. For instance, having a string of failed marriages would say more about me than about the people I married. But, so far, I’m doing pretty well, all things considered.
I’m far from perfect, but I am working at it and consistently getting better.
Two failed marriages does not a string make. Though I do agree that if you repeatedly wind up in unsatisfying relationships, you need to figure out why — it could be you have a broken picker.
Comment by MightyKong! — 7/31/2005 @ 6:12 pm
Nor does the one that fell apart on me.
As to the lack of satisfaction… Well, my picker isn’t broken. I consistently pick partners that “need” to be rescued in some way. They present themselves as helpless or abused or whatever, and they need me to be their white knight and save them. All of which feeds my need to feel important and, well, needed. The problem is that I’ve been looking for the wrong thing. I need to look for women who DON’T need to be saved from a bad marriage, or past, or whatever. I need to look for a whole person who can be present in an actual adult relationship with me and not need me to be her “Daddy”.
At least, when the divorce is finally over and I’m ready to date, and attempt to trust a woman, again, that’s what I plan on looking for. *Then* we’ll see how my picker is working! 🙂
Comment by the Network Geek — 7/31/2005 @ 10:10 pm
Well, if that’s the case, then I have two more quotes to add to Uncle Jim’s arsenal of wisdoms:
“The weakness of men is their facade of strength; the strength of women is their facade of weakness.” –Warren Farrell
A woman is like a teabag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.
–Eleanor Roosevelt
Comment by MightyKong! — 7/31/2005 @ 11:04 pm
Beautiful! They’ve been added. Thank you.
Comment by the Network Geek — 8/1/2005 @ 5:59 am